I sincerely believe people come into your life for a reason, a season and or a lifetime. Many people may cross your path in a day. You may cross the path of many people in a day. Are you the one who leaves an imprint in their life in a good way? I came across Florence Scovel Shinn, when a friend gave me one of her books to read. "The Game of Life and How To Play It". I listen to the book on audible regularly. A reminder of how our words carry so much power in our life and in the lives of the people around us. Florence has left an indelible imprint on the world with her work.
I am just back from a 7 day break in the sun. My husband and I met some amazing people. The people who stand out in life are the ones you remember...but what was it about them that makes you remember them? Did you have a laugh with them, share a story, did they make you feel welcome, special, or did they have the uncommon ability to listen without waiting to interrupt. What will make you a memorable person in someone else's day? A smile, remembering a name, looking at someone in the eye when they are speaking to you and really listening without waiting to speak, these are just some of the simple ways you can make a difference.
I choose to listen to this audible book as often as I can. What are you feeding your mind? Or do you allow the thoughts you had yesterday to replay again today. Pay attention to your self talk, we think in pictures and if you worry, you are choosing to mentally rehearse things going the way you DON'T want them to go...why would you do that? Try mentally rehearsing things going the way you want. Your thoughts are the music of the mind. Delete the ones you don't like and listen to new ones. Only you can. Remember what you think about expands...fact!
When you feel good, you emit a frequency that other people are attracted to. No one likes to be around someone who drains them. We like to be with people we feel good around.
Pay attention to how you feel around other people.
You will begin to become more aware of the energy they are emitting, does it feel energizing or not.
Picture by my fabulous photographer nephew Connor P McEwan who you can find on Instagram @connorpmcewan
Knowing when NOT to speak is a skill
We all like to feel heard. When was the last time you had a conversation with someone and you felt that they really listened to you? They held the space for you, they let you talk and they didn't interrupt you.
When someone does this for you how do you feel?
Calmer, Understood, Human, Touched, Heard... the list goes on.
Sometimes all we need is someone to listen. It is so tempting to give people the benefit of our experience, knowledge or our opinion, but listening without interruption is sometimes just the energy that person needs. You might be the only person in their life who knows how to really listen.
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In her book "The CheerLeaders and Vampires In Your Life" Elaine shares with you, how your interactions with others can greatly influence your life.
She shares 5 key principles to help you connect with others and improve your skill with people. She also introduces a modality called Tapping (EFT) which helps to diffuse negative emotions and bring calm, clarity and confidence.
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